The journey to motherhood is like no other.......
So I'm quite a bit late in my annual Mother's Day greetings this year, but in this month of May, I've been inspired to think more about the journey that is motherhood. So what does it mean to be a mother?
Embracing the Journey of Motherhood
The journey of motherhood is not about perfection; it is about presence. It is about being fully present to the joys, the sorrows, the challenges, and the triumphs that come with raising a child.
The Mirror of Motherhood
Children are our greatest teachers. They hold up a mirror to our souls, reflecting our deepest fears, insecurities, and unhealed wounds. Through their eyes, we see the parts of ourselves we have long forgotten or chosen to ignore. This reflection is an opportunity for profound healing and growth. Embrace these moments, for they are the catalysts for your own transformation.
Letting Go of Perfection
In the pursuit of being the "perfect" mother, we often lose sight of what our children truly need: an authentic connection. They do not need us to be flawless; they need us to be real. To show them that it is okay to make mistakes, to be vulnerable, to fall and rise again. By letting go of perfection, we give our children the permission to be imperfect and to love themselves fully.
Cultivating Self-Compassion
Motherhood demands a boundless well of compassion, not only for our children but for ourselves. It is easy to fall into the trap of self-judgment and guilt, feeling that we are never enough. But remember that you are enough. Your worth is not measured by how perfectly you balance all your roles, but by the love and intention you bring to each moment.
Awakening to the Present
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it is easy to become disconnected from the present moment. Yet, it is in the present that life unfolds in all its richness. I remember one evening when I was trying to get my then-young son into bed only to have him pull on my arm to point out something behind me. Thinking this as a stalling tactic, I initially reacted in frustration, but something told me to slow down and really be present. He had been trying to show me the little firefly that had somehow gotten into the bedroom. It was a wonderful moment of magic that allowed me to share stories on how fireflies got their glow, and really brough us closer in the moment.
Children are masters of living in the now; they draw us into their world of wonder and curiosity. So allow yourself to be drawn in. Pause, breathe, and savor the simple, fleeting moments of connection. These are the moments that weave the tapestry of your motherhood journey.
The Power of Surrender
Motherhood teaches us the art of surrender. To surrender is to release the illusion of control. It is to trust in the unfolding of life, to trust in your child’s journey, and to trust in your own path. Surrendering opens the space for grace to enter, for miracles to happen, and for love to flow freely.
Celebrating You!
Take a moment to celebrate yourself. Honour the woman you are, the journey you have walked, and the love you have poured into your family. Reflect on the growth you have experienced, the lessons you have learned, and the strength you have discovered within yourself.
Motherhood is a profound journey of awakening to your truest self. It is a dance of love, a symphony of growth, and a testament to the transformative power of unconditional love. Celebrate this journey, for it is the essence of life itself.
“When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a ‘mini-me,’ but a spirit throbbing with its own signature.” Dr Shefali, parenting expert
So embrace the uniqueness of your motherhood journey, and the unique spirit of your child. Together, you are creating a legacy of love, consciousness, and awakening.
In celebration of all mothers and mother-figures in our lives,
Be well,
Paula
Dr Paula Robertson is a busy mom and a paediatrician with over twenty years' experience working with young people and their families. She is also a certified children's mindfulness teacher and Positive Discipline Parenting coach. You can find out more at www.paulathedoctormom.com.
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